BLAINESWORLD #860

Section 2, part 2

(1) Wes. H. in NC [on Constant Contact Award]: Congratulations, Blaine! Good job!

(2) Suzanne S. in NC:  Congrats on your award from Constant Contact… You are certainly deserving of it!

(3) Annemarie E. in NJ: CONGRATULATIONS Blaine – WOW I can remember years ….years…. years ago when you were doing this. It’s wonderful that someone that big recognized your dedication, consistency and value.  Much deserved!!

(4) Eileen Z. in PA: Yeah, congrats on the award!  

(5) Dana K. in PA: Thanks for using my bit of advice in your newsletter. I know it will be useful to many of your readers. Congrats on your newsletter’s recent achievement. On a similar note, I was just given congratulations for being one of the top 4% of read reviewers on Trip Advisor.  I highly recommend people read this review site before planning vacations, hotel stays, and dining out.  

(6) Betty T. in PA: Indeed my heartfelt congratulations to you!

(7) Pat L. in CA: CONGRATS on your award, Blaine!!

(8) Catherine O. in MA: Congrats on award  –  well deserved!!

My two cents: Thanks to all the above, as well as everybody else. If you weren’t reading BLAINESWORLD, I wouldn’t have gotten this award!

(9) Brian H. in NJ: The  video of the nascar driver scaring the crap out of the car dealer was fantastic. I hope that guy didn’t end up with permanent heart problems.

(10) Roger C. in PA: Special LOL!!! joke #3. Love your newsletter.   

(11) Mary Rita S. in NC: I have to agree with Cynthia about the stoopid parking meters!!!
It’s so expensive $1.00 an hour. When we took Katie to Chicago for her Northwestern audition, the on street parking wasn’t that expensive.
25 cents for 15 minutes…..in Asheville that’s crazy

(12) Marty D. in PA: I remember Sly & the Family Stone (Stand!; Somebody’s Watching You, others…) What happened to Sly?Hope all is well down there in the land near Dixie

Response: What I just found out (via Wikipedia): 1. 1987, Sly Stone was arrested and sentenced for cocaine use, after which he went into effective retirement. 2. During the 1970s, Sly or one of the band members would often miss the gig, refuse to play, or pass out from drug use. This had an adverse effect on their ability to demand money for live bookings; live bookings also declined as a result. 3. A Sly and the Family Stone tribute took place at the 2006 Grammy Awards on February 8, 2006. The original plan, to have been a surprise for audiences, was to feature a reunion performance by the original Sly and the Family Stone lineup as the highlight of the tribute. . . . Three minutes into the performance, Sly tossed a wave to the audience and exited the stage, leaving the Family Stone and the guest performers to complete the number alone. 4. On September 25, 2011, the New York Post reported that Sly Stone was now homeless and living out of a white camper-van in Los Angeles: “The van is parked on a residential street in Crenshaw, the rough Los Angeles neighborhood where ‘Boyz n the Hood’ was set. A retired couple makes sure he eats once a day, and Stone showers at their house.

Note: If he died afterward, that’s too bad. At one time, he was a dynamic performer.

(13) Natalie K. in PA: Saw “Impossible” today and was blown away (no pun intended).  I couldn’t breathe until it was over and thought the acting was fabulous.  When Ewan broke down calling home, that was so powerful.  Glad I saw it.

(14) Eileen R. in GA: Some thoughts on selling yourself.

http://www.edgyepigramsfromeileen.blogspot.com/

(15) Steve G. in PA:  Saw EMPEROR movie. I thought is was an interesting perspective.  I would say the only part that was verifiable were the photos, the rest was poetic license of what might have been said. It did keep my attention in the way the story was structured.  Having seen various movies and read about General M, the movie readly was not about him, and the role of General M and this movie does, in my view, appropriately, deemphasizes  General M to enrich the story – it was also a difficult topic –  and have this haunting feeling that what is evolving with the  weapons of mass distruction in Iran and elsewhere, just heightens the odds.

(16) Eileen R. in GA: Looking forward to BLAINESWORLD. Thanks for the invite. If you feel like it, please become a follower of my blog: http://www.edgyepigramsfromeileen@blogspot.com. (On the Edge) I write about a variety of topics ranging from pop culture to politics to pithy observations on whatever strikes my fancy.

(17) Gary J. in NC: Myth vs. Fact: The Identity Theft Resource Center dispels some of the myths surrounding the issue of identity theft and replaces them with the facts:http://ow.ly/jdinh 

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Section 4C

SINGLE EFFORT (Scruffy Olive) by Joe Keller is the book I wished I had at my disposal over 10 years ago when I had gone through a divorce . . it provides clear, practical advice to help any single guy have a dynamic, successful life.

The author, a father of two, came up with the idea for the book as a result of his own divorce . . . though he made many mistakes along the way, Keller eventually came up with an approach to being single that brought him both confidence and an exciting new life.

Among his many useful tidbits of advice were these:

* There’s absolutely no guarantee that every encounter you have with a woman will end in success. Indeed, many chance encounters will not end with the promise of a continuing dialogue (to which I can personally attest). She may say “Yes” to giving you her phone number, she may say “No” but there is one guarantee you can count on. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be “No.”

* Keep in mind that women hear compliments about their looks all the time. Instead of focusing on outward beauty, you may want to consider going to the next level and focusing on something else that makes your date beautiful in your eyes—it could be her smile, the way she walks, or even her attitude. For example, “It’s really rare to meet someone who’s willing to launch a new career and follow their dream.  So many people are afraid to take risks—I really admire that about you.”

And my favorite:

* While working on cutting out my own clutter, I came across a poster at a local sandwich shop that hit home. Titled “How Much Is Enough?” (based on an original story by Henrich Boll), it reinforced the lesson I was already learning—that less is sometimes more:

An American businessman was at the pier of a small Mexican coastal village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish. The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, but what do you do with the rest of your time? The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, and stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos—I have full and busy life, senor.”

The American scoffed, “I have a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat, and with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats—eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then L.A. and eventually New York City, where you would run your expanding enterprise.” The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senor, how long will this all take?” To which the American replied, “15-20 years,” “But what then, senor?”

The American laughed and said that’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions. “Millions, senor? Then what?” The American said. “Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.

Though SINGLE EFFORT is aimed to guy, let me suggest that many women would also find it helpful; e.g., to see what the opposite sex is thinking.

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Section 11

From Grieving to Healing:  10 Tips to Comforting Mourners
by Rabbi Mel Glazer*

1. Don’t talk too much.

Let the mourners set the tone. If they want to talk, talk.And if they just want to sit quietly and not talk, don’t intrude on their privacy. Let the mourners control how they respond to their loss.

2. You didn’t know the deceased, go to the funeral anyway.

The family will appreciate your presence, and they will know you are there for them, and that will be a comfort.

3. Even if you missed the funeral, you can still call or visit.

There is no clock for the soul (Hassidic) which means that your friendship is valuable, and they would love to hear from you, even if it’s a week or a month later. And sometimes we just cannot get ourselves to find the strength to go to the funeral. It’s okay, there will be needs after the funeral, after the crowds have all gone home.

4. Do something for the family so they will know you care.

Some people are good with words, you may not be. But everybody has gifts and talents. Perhaps yours is cooking. If so, cook dinner and take it over, the family will be grateful. Perhaps you love to do laundry, or drive kids to school or after-school lessons. Whatever your gift may be, it will be appreciated, because you will take away some of the “I can”t do this today” feelings that family members may have. They are still numb, routines will be ignored, you can definitely help!.

5. Don’t stop calling and volunteering.

To comfort mourners means that you need to take the responsibility. Even, and especially, after the first week after the funeral.

Do not say: “call me if there’s anything I can do,” they won’t call you. They don’t want to impose, so you have to seize the initiative and call them to volunteer.

6. Tell them what you will do for them.

Be as specific as possible.

“Our kids are on the same soccer team, I’ll do carpool for a month.”

“I will be by Tuesday to take you (or your spouse or child) to their doctor’s appointment or piano lesson or Religious School or class sleepover.”

“After all the people who were here, you must have lots of laundry, I’ll be there in the morning to help with the wash.”

7. Do not EVER say “I know how you must feel.”

You don’t know how anybody feels except yourself. Saying that only diminishes their ability to properly mourn. Also, do not compare losses, because no two losses are the same. Your husband’s death last year is your grief, her husband’s death last week is hers, and they are not the same. Each loss in individual, each loss is mourned at 100%.  In the case of death, everything is personal.

8. Speak to their hearts, not their heads.

They already know how their beloved died, do not analyze it ad nauseum for them. It is their hearts that are broken, not their heads. Do not give advice: they won’t listen, and it’s really none of your business! They are adults, who are able to make their own decisions about what happens next in their lives. And please do not say “they’re with God now.” You may believe it, and they may believe it, but trust me when I say that their relationship with God is a bit shaky these days, don’t make it worse.

9. Take care of the kids.

Yours and theirs. Your kids need to know what happened and that you won’t die anytime soon. That’s what they worry about when somebody they know dies—will it happen to me or you? Say to your kids: most people live a very very very long life.” Don’t ask me why three times works, but it is comforting. And, take care of the mourners’ kids, who might be somewhat ignored during these heady days of mourning. Say to the mourning kids: “I am so sad, and if there is anything you want to talk about, I am ready to listen. And if you don’t want to talk, that is just fine too.”

10. Do not tell the mourners to be strong.

First, you have no control over that. Second, they cannot be strong until they have been weak and suffered and come to the realization that death is so hard, but part of life. And then, when they emerge from that numbness and pain, they will realize the secret of death: I did not die, I still can live a life of joy and achievement, even with my beloved. I will be okay.

* Reprinted with the gracious permission of Rabbi Mel Glazer who has been a Rabbi and Grief Therapist for almost 40 years. He joyfully leads grievers “from mourning to morning” and helps them move forward to a life lived with joy and meaning. He may be reached at griefok@aol.com.

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Section 12A: NC events

(2) Upcoming Events – Richard Shulman performances:

Sat. March 23, 7:30 – 9:30 Spring Equinox Celebration Concert at the UR Light Center on Rte 9 in Black Mountain 7:30 to 9:30 pm, Saturday, March 23rd. The Light Center is 8.2 miles south on Rte. 9, coming from exit 64 on I-40.

Sun. March 24, 11:00 am Music at the Center for Spiritual Living – Asheville 2 Science of Mind Way  Asheville, NC 28806, (828) 253-2325

Sun. March 24, 6:00 – 8:00 pm playing piano with Rich Willey as the “Swinging Richards” at ISIS Restaurant and Music Hall 743 Haywood Rd., Asheville, NC 28806 · (828) 575-2737

Thurs. March 28, 8:00 – 11:00 pm: playing keyboard with the Heather Masterton Quartet at  Olive or Twist 81 Broadway, Asheville NC 28801

Sun. March 31, 11:00 am Music at the Center for Spiritual Living – Asheville Special Easter service with guest musician Eddie Watkins Jr. 2 Science of Mind Way  Asheville, NC 28806, (828) 253-2325

(3) Mask Making Class (April 3rd to May 8th)

  • This class will introduce the student to professional mask making techniques. The class will meet Wednesdays from 6:00pm to 9:00pm starting April 4th through May 8th. The class will be broken down into four sections.1. Casting the Human Face: Each student will learn to cast a person’s face and have their own face cast. The casting will be done with alginate and plaster bandages. The finished mold will be used to create an Ultra-Cal 30 (high grade plaster/cement) high-detailed, positive replica of their face. This positive of their face will be used in the class, will last a lifetime, and can be used in the future for advanced mask making and GM Foam facial prosthetics classes.
    2. Sculpting the Mask Shape: Using Roma Plastilina, an oil based clay that does not dry out, the student will sculpt the shape of their mask directly on to the Ultra-Cal 30 positive of their face. By doing this, the finished product will fit perfectly to the person’s face.
    3. Casting the Sculpted Mask Shape: This step will create a mold of the sculpted mask shape using Ultra-Cal 30. The finished mold will be used to create the final mask, and has the ability to be used over and over, if one wants to make multiple copies of their mask.
    4. Creating the Mask: This final step will use the mold from step 3 to create the final mask. A number of materials can be used in the mold, including Neoprene, Latex, GM Foam, and more. This class will be going old school and working with paper mache being placed inside the mold in layers.This class is being offered at an introductory rate of $150, and is limited to 6 students. The cost of the class includes most materials. The only materials it will not include is paint and other materials the individual student may want to use to finish off their mask.http://www.toyboatcommunityartspace.com/classes.html

    to sign up!

    Walter’s Portfolio: http://pwimsdmasks.com/

    BIO
    Walter Beals has been a professional mask maker and mask-making instructor for over a dozen years. With both a Bachelor’s and Master’s Degree in Theatre Production from Humboldt State University, he gained most of his mask making skills and knowledge under the training of mask-making and film-and-theatre-makeup master, Janet Warren. Having also spent a year at Circomedia, the International School of Circus arts and Physical Theatre in Bristol, England, he learned about European style masks andmask making from his instructor Bim Mason, former student of Jacques Lecoq.

(4) Advance tickets for this show are available here: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/351334

Advance tickets for this show are available here: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/351334
(5) Asheville Vocal Blast Concert
  • Admission: Donation at the Door (Cash/Checks)Come enjoy Vocal Blast’s first concert of the season, hear some stage favorites- JR Brown, S. Sondheim, and more!!Doors open at 7:30, snack and drink bar available at Toy Boat! so come early for a drink or stay afterward to chat up with the performers and Toy Boat Staff!This is a fund raiser for the JPW Schierhorn Scholarship benefiting Asheville City School Students.
To hear the group in rhearsal, please click:

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Section 12B: PA/NJ events

(1) FYI- [from Joni Dowburd] Chic & I are in the ensemble of the NVMT production of… CURTAINS!

BE SURE TO SEE BUCKS COUNTY’S PREMIER PERFORMANCE

OF THE NEW HIT BROADWAY MUSICAL COMEDY
BY THE AUTHORS OF “CABARET” AND “CHICAGO”!
NESHAMINY VALLEY MUSIC THEATRE
presents its 57th annual musical production
Part backstage comedy, part musical, part murder mystery…
and all fun!
It’s 1959…
A new musical tries out in Boston… and dies.
Unfortunately, so does the leading lady… along with several other not-so-likable characters!
The Boston police detective sent to solve the crimes also sets out to save the show, with hilarious results! CURTAINS is a bright and bouncy tribute to musical theatre, spoofing many of the great musicals of the past while still declaring a passionate love for the theatre – and for the people who make theatre happen!
This hit 2007 Broadway musical calls for 18 musical numbers including nine full production numbers. It was nominated for eight Tony Awards, winning for best leading actor, and ten Drama Desk Awards, winning for outstanding book and outstanding featured actress. Music and lyrics are by John Kander and Fred Ebb, the creative team who wrote CABARET and CHICAGO, and book is by Peter Stone (1776, SUGAR, TITANTIC) and Rupert Holmes (DROOD).
Please join us on April 12, 13, 19 or 20, 2013 at the Neshaminy High School, 2001 Old Lincoln Highway, Langhorne, PA 19047 when Neshaminy Valley Music Theatre presents our 57th annual musical comedy production – CURTAINS!
 
Fridays, April 12th & 19th at 8:00 PM
Saturdays, April 13th & 20th at 3:00 PM and 8:00 PM
NESHAMINY HIGH SCHOOL KLOOS THEATRE/AUDITORIUM
2001 OLD LINCOLN HIGHWAY
LANGHORNE, PA 19047
ADULTS – $20.00
ADULT TICKETS $18 IF ORDERED ON OR BEFORE APRIL 1ST!
STUDENTS/CHILDREN UNDER 18 YEARS OLD – $15.00
 TO ORDER TICKETS:
CALL: 267-733-8876
CREDIT CARD THROUGH PAYPAL:
tickets also available at the door

(2) Plumstead Historical Society

April 15th 2013 at 7:00pm: Reenactor Marie Caron, Pastor at Tinicum Christ Lutheran will present a program on colonial foods

All are welcome; you don’t have to be a member to attend!  Feel free to bring family or friends to this and any event or meeting.

If you should have any questions or an interesting story to share, please contact me at 215-543-5550 or info@plumsteadhistoricalsociety.org

(3) Join Prof. Hennessey for Lively Book Discussions Each Month

Delve into fascinating books in 2013 by dropping in on the College Book Discussion Group.
The free, informal gatherings take place from 7:30 to 9 p.m. on the second Thursday of the
month during the academic year in Rollins 114.
On Thursday, April 11, the group will discuss Sweet Tooth: A Novel by Ian McEwan.
A Cambridge student’s beauty and intelligence make her the ideal recruit for MI5,
England’s legendary spy agency, in a 1972 Cold War operation to manipulate the cultural
conversation by funding writers whose politics align with those of the government.
Forthcoming titles include The Orphan Master’s Son by Adam Johnson, May 9, and This is
How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz, June 13. For more information, contact Michael Hennessey
at 215-968-8164 or hennesse@bucks.edu.

(4) Jennie Giardine Smith, adjunct faculty, Language & Literature, whose debut novel titled Opium Dreams was released by Eternal Press on February 1. Smith will read an excerpt from the historical romantic suspense novel at Reading & Writing Women March 25 in the Fireside Lounge. She will also be signing books at the Fairless Hills Barnes and Noble this Saturday, March 23 from 2:00 to 4:00.  

(5) LAUGH HARD AND FEEL GOOD THIS WEEKEND!Dog Rescue – Saturday in South Jersey
http://www.comedycabaret.com/newjersey.html

Homeless Shelter – Saturday  in Bucks County
http://www.comedycabaret.com/doylestown.html
FOX-CHASE CANCER in Northeast
http://www.comedycabaret.com/northeast.html

(6) Artists: get up to speed on copyrights & legal business matters. Join the Bucks County Illustrators Society Tues. April 9 at 7 PM when Ken Carraway of Carraway Law will speak on “Artists Rights Issues in the Visual Arts.” In Paxson Hall at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 84 E. Oakland Avenue, Doylestown, admission $10, students with ID $5. Ken will give an overview of important concepts & take questions from the audience. Topics will include licensing, derivative works, copyrights & trademarks, infringement, contracts, exclusive & non-exclusive rights, internet rights.

See www.buckscountyillustrators.webs.com

(7)

Gun Violence in America – A Public Health & Societal Crisis
Unintentional deaths, suicide, homicide – what are the true costs and patterns of gun violence?
Gun violence through the public health lens.
Friends Center
1500 Cherry Street 
Philadelphia, PA 19107
Wednesday – March 27. 2013
6:00 pm: Network & visit literature tables
6:30 pm – 8:30 pm Speaker Program
Welcome and announcements – David Keller Trevaskis, Esquire
Introduction of speaker – Walter Tsou, MD
C. William Schwab, MD, FACS, FRCS
Professor of Surgery and Chief of Trauma Division of Trauma & Surgical Critical Care
Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania
Shira Goodman
Executive Director of CeasefirePA

John A. Rich, MD, MPH

Professor & Chair Drexel University School of Public Health

Center for Nonviolence and SocialJustice 

Announcements & Petition Signing – David Keller Trevaskis, Esquire
 Program is Free & Open to All At
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